With social media and women being all helicopter-y and whatnot, you hear a lot about people’s highlight reel. Nobody posts their shit on Facebook. Well, some do, but it’s more soap opera appeal that actual reality.
Generally, people post the best of their lives on Facebook. The selfies on the one day they actually wear makeup (and if you are like me, pants), the pictures where the kids are smiling instead of screaming. The moments of sheer joy. All the pleasurable parts of life.
These images give the impression that life is filled with perfectly put together moments when, in reality, it is anything but.
This is not news to me, and it probably isn’t to you either.
So one day I was scrolling and trolling over on Facebook when, lo and behold, I came across this random post on by Austin Blood about 10 things every woman should know. I glanced through and while it was all excellent advice, nothing earth shattering until I got to #8: We all have that one friend who seems to have it all together. That woman with the seemingly perfect life. Well, you might be that woman to someone else.
This took me back to a moment not too long ago…
There’s this woman at my church; I love this girl. I don’t know her well, but I am dying for the opportunity to make her my friend. She gives the world’s best hugs. That’s not an exaggeration. And she gives them to everyone, which is almost more generous than I can bear cause, y’all, those hugs are liquid gold.
Anyway, it was an ordinary morning after a moms-2-moms meeting. I was still salivating after another amazing hug when she dropped the bomb:
“You inspire me.”
At first, I laughed because that is what I do. I blew it off, but then I caught a glimpse of the sincerity in her eyes.
In typical hippie style, I see myself as kind of out there. I’m the friend who never has it together, whose kids never match, who shows up to the birthday party 15 minutes late with the present wrapped in a Target bag. I am the example of what not to do.
Yet she saw something in me and she was inspired.
It’s not just me. It’s you too. You inspire someone. Someone looks at you, real life and all, and feels uplifted. You are someone’s someone.
Just gonna let that sink in.